Becoming a Mother of two With Cosima Wright

Cosima, thank you for joining us this week; we are delighted to have you here to talk about your own experience with expanding your family recently. We hope you enjoy this week’s blog, becoming a mother of two with Cosima Wright.

You recently expanded your family and welcomed your second little girl, tell us, how is it going?

I’m doing well, but honestly, this transition has been a lot. Most parents say that two is more work than one, but I didn’t fully understand that until we brought our second home. While it’s amazing, and we are so lucky to feel our family is complete, it doesn’t feel like there is a moment of spaciousness in my days at this stage. I can’t even imagine how this transition would have been without the support of my postpartum doula. It’s just a reminder that Women and birthing people are truly superheroes.

How is your three-year-old adapting to the new baby?

Luckily my oldest loves her sister, but since she just turned three, I still have to watch her closely and the baby. When my toddler wants to interact with her sister, somebody always needs to be there to ensure she is not accidentally hurting her baby sister. That means there is pretty much no time to do anything except care for the girls other than when my postpartum doula is here or my eldest is in preschool.

What has been the most significant adjustment for you?

My husband and I already thought that there was very little time that we had for ourselves or each other, but now that we have welcomed a second it feels as if there is none. We have support so we can work, but once our doula leaves, I’m alone with my two kids until my husband comes home from work. We eat dinner, and then it’s bedtime. This means we both run around like chickens with their heads cut off until both kids are sleeping. Actually, sometimes we stop and look at each other and have to laugh about the chaos we produced. Other times we need to remind ourselves and each other that it’s just a phase and we will have a normal day-to-day life again in the future. We truly are a team, and next to our little ones that is the biggest gift. 

How was your postpartum period different the second time around?

I think the biggest difference was that we set ourselves up with tonnes of support which truly made a huge difference. We had night and day support for the first couple of months. I didn’t have time to think about myself, so having somebody in the house who took that over me helped so much. I couldn’t be more grateful for my wonderful doulas and my husband, who I couldn’t have done it without.

What was your support system like postpartum?

With my first, it was mostly just my husband and me. We had a small amount of family help. The second time around, I knew that support would make all the difference. With my second, my husband sadly could only take off two weeks from work. Still, I had night and day doula support set up to ensure I could heal and adjust to day-to-day life as a family of four while not forgetting to eat and sleep and process birth and the postpartum craziness.

If you could change one thing, what would it be?

I honestly would take more time off work if possible since I returned after 8 weeks after my second daughter was born, and I really wasn’t ready at this point; however, due to having an amazing business partner and a great support system, I made it work.

Is there anything you didn’t expect that was harder or easier your second time?

Due to knowing what was coming my way, I was significantly more relaxed and prepared with my second than the first time around. That helped me embrace the chaos and enjoy all the little things next to adjusting.

Thank you, Cosima, for joining us this week!

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